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I love my family.


we’re basically the same guy just thirty years apart.

For the fourth of July I spent my evening with family. I’ve never spent a fourth of July with my family (outside of the immediate of course), and it was really interesting to see just how similar to them I really am. My cousins, who are about my father’s age, are without-a-doubt two of the coolest, best friends I’ve ever made. I spent a hour or more speaking with one of them and her boyfriend about everything from smoking weed to dissecting the beliefs of Adolf Hitler. The other, well, we’re basically the same guy just thirty years apart and with two different political views (but as I learned, who the hell cares?).

I’ve always shunned the idea of getting close to my family. I felt some sort of “superiority” because I’ve only know the bad side of my family. A grandfather who never graduated high school and walked out on my father when he was ten and a grandmother who would rather chase my sister with a knife then tell her son she loves him. What I forgot to think about what the fact that these people aren’t those two. They are still my family and they have a lot more to offer as friends and family than anyone else I know. I learned that my engineering background isn’t just something I picked up, but instead it comes from a cousin who was one of the first women engineers to ever be in-charge of a satellite launch. I learned that if you just throw “LOL” at the end of whatever you say that the world doesn’t look so bleak. I learned that the world is a fucked up place, but that if you ask a soldier what he thinks – he’ll give it to you straight and he’ll be real about the implications.

My family is full of some of the smartest, friendliest, and accepting people I’ve ever met.

This weekend I learned that all I’ve ever been is ignorant to learning from my family. My family is full of some of the smartest, friendliest, and accepting people I’ve ever met. I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I’m no better than them – in fact I’ve been nothing but a terrible person up until this point. I was able to meet them last year, but I felt out of place. I felt like they looked at me weird because I had long hair and wanted to work with computers. Little did I know, they want to help me. When I left from hanging out with them today almost every single one of them said they loved me and that if I ever needed help in life or with my business to call them up. And you know what? You bet damn well they are the first people I’ll ever reach out to if I need advice or direction because they get me. They’re family.

What’s the moral of this trip for me? That I’m an asshole? Yeah, but I admitted I’m an asshole in my first post for 100 Days of Blogging. The moral of this trip is bigger than that. Today, this weekend, I learned that I have a family. I have friends for life. I have people just like me who’ve been where I want to go and only want what’s best for me. I felt accepted, I feel like I belong somewhere. That’s bigger to me than anything else.

Thank you

Thank you, my family, for accepting me. Thank you for being my friends. Thank you for the hugs, the laughter, and the good times. Thank you for beliving in me, listening to me, and talking to me. Thank you for sharing your lives with me and making me a part of yours. I might not be their brother, first cousin, direct nephew, or son – but I’m their family – and their mine. And god damn the lady who tells us to shut up while she nits and her husband does a cross word because we’re Scott’s! And if we want to talk about putting a bunch of dimples in a baseball bat or scream at the catcher for missing a pitch we’re gunna doing it!

The moral of the story is stop being a prick, stop hiding from your family. You’re not better – they are. Your family is smart, your family is brilliant – my family rocks.

I love each and every one of you

I love each and every one of you and I couldn’t have asked for a better weekend. You made me understand myself in ways I can’t explain and for that all I can say is thank you and look to everyone who doesn’t treat their family like their best friends that they’re doing it wrong.

I look forward to the next years of my life where I make my family a bigger part of my life. They’re awesome! Well… except you Randy. You suck. (LOL?)

brandon jp scott

My name is Brandon, and I like to make things. I'm a Full Stack Software Engineer and Linux Administrator from Ann Arbor, Michigan. I started programming when some childhood friends and I decided to make a private Ragnarok Online server and host it in my parents basement. I got designated "code guy", fell in love, and never looked back. I started teaching myself as much as I could, and started my first online entity, a non-profit, with a high school classmate. Eventually I took this love to the University of Michigan where I studied Computer Science Engineering and Mathematics. During my time there I was lucky enough to work for two iconic tech companies, Automattic and Google. Currently, I am the Technology Director of Argo Labs, an Ann Arbor based digital engineering, design, videography, and content marketing company aiming to build a more unique web that I cofounded in July 2015 with two of my best friends.

4 comments

Vicky Scott
Vicky Scott - July 4, 2016 Reply

Best blog you ever wrote. You are very blessed to be able to call each and everyone of them your family.

Terri Clark
Terri Clark - July 4, 2016 Reply

That was awesome Brandon. And just so you know, we weren’t looking at you because you had long hair. We were checking out that corn cob coming out of your ear!! Hope you remember that from last summer. My son Trey still thinks it’s one of the funniest things he’s ever heard!!

Randall Scott
Randall Scott - July 5, 2016 Reply

Your a great writer it equals your engineering abilities. It was nice spending time with you I look forward to doing it again soon. Next time we come through Michigan I’ll give you a call. I still can’t believe your only 1/2 as smart as me.

Randall Scott
Randall Scott - July 11, 2016 Reply

Sounds like you had epiphany. Now You understand the meaning of life. Now you can go and change the world.

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